Validation vs Self-esteem

 Validation is approval from others. Self-esteem is approval from yourself. Never sacrifice your self-esteem to gain validation. Validation is easily regained once lost. Self-esteem is not. - Mark Mason

The 9 life lessons by Tim Minchin

Link to his blog.

“In darker days, I did a corporate gig at a conference for this big company who made and sold accounting software. In a bid, I presume, to inspire their salespeople to greater heights, they’d forked out 12 grand for an Inspirational Speaker who was this extreme sports dude who had had a couple of his limbs frozen off when he got stuck on a ledge on some mountain. It was weird. Software salespeople need to hear from someone who has had a long, successful and happy career in software sales, not from an overly-optimistic, ex-mountaineer. Some poor guy who arrived in the morning hoping to learn about better sales technique ended up going home worried about the blood flow to his extremities. It’s not inspirational – it’s confusing.

Everything you need to know about happiness in one infographic

Source [link] by Happify

I hope you find love - everywhere

"I hope you find love. And I don't just mean that in regards to someone you wrap your tired bones around at night. I mean I hope you find love in every aspect of your life. I hope you find it tucked into early morning sunrises and the smell of your favorite places. I hope you find it strung between the laughter you share with your friends, I hope it bounces off of you when you hug the people you care for, I hope it swells within your ribcage when you hear your favorite song, or when you discover something that moves you. I hope you fall in love with growth, and change, and the messiness and the beauty of fucking up, and making mistakes, and becoming exactly who you want to be. I hope you find love in places that were once void of it; in places within yourself that you could have been softer to, kinder to, in the past. Because if there is one thing I have learned, it is that love is so much more than a man or a woman, who holds your heart." -- Bianca Sparacino

Yearly tradition

Ways to be raised to have more confidence

How to deal with failure and make it a part of learning and improving

At the dinner table every day, her dad would ask her and her brother, what have you failed at today. Sara Blakely says this is what helped succeed in life and have a successful company.

"Dad I tried out for this and I was horrible", she would tell him, and her dad would hive five her and congratulate her.

Failure for her became "Not Trying" versus the outcome.